How to make your new year’s resolutions actually stick
“January 1st 2018.
This year is going to be different.
This year is going to be MY year.
Last year…certain things weren’t so great. Things got out of hand. Lots of things happened which I wish didn’t.
Some great things happened…but many not so great things happened.
But 2018. This year is going to be THE year that everything goes 100% to plan, and I finally reach those health goals I so badly wanted in January 2017.”
Does this sound familiar?
I hear it often.
In fact, it’s a yearly occurrence (sometimes a little before NYE, sometimes a little after).
Regardless…it’s the same every year.
This year, however, I’d like you to look at things a little differently.
Instead of simply proclaiming, “this year is going to be MY year, everything is going to be different”, I’d love you to take a serious look at the last 2-5 years and try to find some patterns.
As a side note, this is not something that can only be done in January, in fact it can be done any time of the year. It just so happens that many people decide that the start of a new calendar year is when they would most like to change.
A couple of months ago I did this process myself. It was really eye-opening.
As a naturopath and personal trainer I like to consider myself quite in control of my health. Trust me when I say I am by no means perfect – I don’t always exercise as much as I need to, I eat takeaway when life is too hectic for me to cook, and on that note I don’t always address my stress levels when my adrenals are screaming out for support. However…when I set myself a health or fitness related goal, I’m mostly pretty good at following through, especially when I take the time to plan the steps I need to take to achieve it.
BUT – when it comes to my business, and goals related to that…when I carried out this process of trying to determine my patterns, I realised that I had very clear patterns laid out – when things got super busy with face-to-face work, I dropped all of my blogging and newsletters…and when things got really quiet, I wondered why I hadn’t managed to write a blog or newsletter and why my online programs weren’t getting finished.
It was a great wake up call for me.
Day after day, week after week, month after month – I followed the same pattern. In fact, I would have these destructive thoughts of “why isn’t my business further along than where it is now”….and “where is that magic wand I should be able to wave for my business to be exactly where I want it to be?”
And this is exactly what I hear from clients ALL the time – “can’t you give me a magic pill to make me feel better already?”
I don’t want to stop you from dreaming.
But I do want you to be realistic.
If it’s your health you want to change in 2018, ask yourself:
- How many diets have you tried over the years?
- How many different exercise regimes or gyms have you started but not continued?
- How many half bottles of supplements do you have at the back of the pantry in your kitchen?
Once you’ve looked at some of these things – dig a little further and ask yourself…
- What really happened?
- Why did you start and then stop?
- Were you looking for a magic pill and when you didn’t find it, did you give up?
- Or did something happen that is a legitimate reason for you to stop and deal with, and now if that thing has passed can you try again?
For my business, I knew it was my newsletters and blog posts. Sure, they’re not all I want to achieve in my business – however they are one of my “baby steps”. I can happily tell you, that this newsletter/blog post has now graced your inbox regularly since September – and I plan to continue this for this year, every week.
I’d love to know, what are the baby steps you need to take?
I encourage you to take a piece of paper right now and write down what you’d like to achieve, and how you are going to get there.
It might be that you need to enlist the services of a professional like a naturopath to offer you advice and accountability – if that’s the case, please get in touch with me.
Or it might just be that you need to be accountable to yourself – set yourself some goals that do not follow the pattern of your past.
If one of your goals is to improve your diet this year, stay tuned for my next post in which I discuss my 1kg veggie challenge – and make 2018 YOUR year for better health.
To a healthy, happy 2018 filled with baby steps helping you achieve your BIG goals,